Relationships, the crutch of our lives….
People come and they go, but what lingers is sometimes detrimental to our growth.
New love is always so intriguing. You noticed them from across the room, eyes locked, knitted brows, sweaty palms and beating hearts.
You wonder if this time could be it.
It could be, right?
Afterall, this cannot be another, in the series of these trial relationships.
Within 365 days, you’ve had a minimum of 27 relationships.
27 new names… new names in your phone, that you wish wasn’t there.
27 new numbers…new numbers that you wish you could erase from your memory.
27 what ifs’, what could be…
The 14 days period of trial relationships.
Have you ever wondered why trial period exist in relationships?
Whether it be one-night stands, two weeks, thirty days or even ninety days trial periods; they exist to protect not only our suitors, but most importantly, to protect our hearts.
When we express our love freely, we are prone to getting hurt easily as well.
We are quick to open our hearts to love…
We are quick to say I love you…
We are quick to entangle our souls with another…
We are quick to become ‘we’, ‘us’ and ‘them’…
Never giving thought to the other persons reasons for being in a relationship.
The truth is everyone’s choice for relationships differ.
Each person enters a relationship with the hopes of fulfilling their dreams and desires.
But what if your betrothed’s desires and dreams are not aligned with yours?
What’s your next move?
Before you begin any new relationship.
Have those uncomfortable conversations with your partner.
Ask yourselves…
What are your expectations for the relationship?
What are your expectations of your partner in the relationship?
What are your partners expectations of you in the relationship?
Are your expectations aligned?
Honestly, answering these questions, will save you a lot of heartache and pain.
If your desires are the same, then, you are on the right path together. Challenges that arise will become easier to handle.
If not, will you be able to handle the rejection? Will you go or will you stay? What’s your next move?
Whatever your next move will be, ensure that it extends beyond the trial period.
Do the work,
Make the changes,
And enjoy your love life.
Love is not meant to be hard, and it shouldn’t have to be!!
Kalhen Coaching 